When you write a dating advice column, one of the inevitable questions that comes up is the idea of inexperience.
In reality, it’s the constant fairly small; the average man has around 6 sexual partners in his lifetime and usually loses his virginity between the ages of 17 to 24.
In fact, the younger you are, the odds higher are that you’re actually going to have fewer partners than previous generations.
If you miss that window, then you’re fucked; you’re now saddled with a permanent debuff to your dating odds that you’ll overcome.
Of course, this window of opportunity bears about as much resemblance to reality as Pokemon does to animal husbandry.
You don’t need to explain or justify it; trying to find reasons why it’s less “shameful” than others’ just reinforces the idea that there’s something shameful about it in the first place.
You don’t need to explain or excuse your lack of dating experience; “I had other priorities” or “Just hadn’t met the right person” are all you need to say if pressed.
It is what it is and that’s ) why you’ve had few (or no) relationships or sexual partners.
Something I’m always saying is that excuses don’t help; they’re a way of getting out of taking responsibility for your actions.
This is just as true with a lack of dating experience as it is with other areas in life. Many people who have no dating or sexual experience worry about being a bad kisser or a bad lay or not knowing how affectionate to be in public or any of a myriad insecurities and anxieties.