I read Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance a while back, and in the beginning he puts out a disclaimer that most of the data and experiences he talks about in the book relate to people of the middle class or higher. So I was wondering if any of you had experience dating while being poor? For guys, if you dated a woman who earned more than you, how were the dynamics of your relationship?
And by poor I mean making 20k or less per year and being in your mid twenties or older. 27/F here, working full-time making just under 25k and putting myself through college.
Being with him caused me to change Ok Cupid answers on finances to "doesn't matter"because it didn't.
I always picked a place where I could afford to pay my half so I went to the same few dives or chains a lot.
My life is still not together and it's almost too late. Then we were just texting up a storm for a couple of days but then I just really needed to know if I should stick with him or move on.
I asked him what he wanted and where he saw our relationship heading.
I agree, not any guy who is mildly well off is willing to shell out any bit of savings he can just to pay for the girl all the time and/or drive her around if she's without a car.
Guys and gals both have their difficulties This is FAR less true than it used to be.
One time, I was starving, and we went to a Thai restaurant.
I said I wasn't very hungry, and offered to split a entree.
That said it got a lot easier in a relationship when we could stay in more and balance the finances and be open about things. I haven't really gotten to the point of sharing my financial situation.
I like to do something, if possible, to make up for when they pay for me. The effects in LTRs is that you have to probably date a poor person, unless you're a girl or a really good looking guy and you can date up.
I don't like to bring up my financial situation until I'm getting closer to exclusivity.